Unselling and the Dreaded Car Buying Experience

Unselling by Scott Stratten and Alison Kramer

Is there anything we dread more than the car buying experience? What makes it awful is that most of us feel like we’re at a disadvantage. We never feel like we have all the information, and we usually don’t. Unselling by Scott Stratten and Alison Kramer is about creating repeat customers instead of one-time buyers. With this post, I’m going to show how the concept in their book applies to my car buying process.

Car salespeople know we don’t have enough information and use it to their advantage. If a car dealership would be transparent, it could be so much more successful. Instead of preying on our insecurities, ease our tension and build our confidence about our decision before and after the sale.

Unselling and the Pulse

With Unselling, Stratten and Kramer talk about the relationship between a brand and its customers as the “pulse.” You can track the customer experience on the “pulse line”.

The pulse line travels through three sections depending on our experience:

  • Ecstatic – This is the area for your most loyal customers. These are the customers that sing your praises and are not vulnerable to competitors.
  • Static – This is where brands can have the biggest effect on customers. That can work for or against them.
  • Vulnerable – This is the stage where we are most open to competition. Brands do not want their customers in this area.

Each experience leads to a “pulse point”. According to Stratten and Kramer, there is no neutral experience, so the points are always moving up or down. Two types of experiences influence the points. First are personal experiences with the brand’s products or services. Second are the broad actions taken by the brand that affect everybody. These can be things like price increase or bad publicity based on something they say or do.

My Car Buying Pulse Line

My Car Buying Pulse Line
The pulse line of my experience with Metro Toyota

To illustrate, I’m going to use the “pulse” as I describe my car buying experience from the last couple of weeks. I had bought two cars at Metro Toyota (one of our local Toyota dealerships) and always had a good experience. So, going in, I was starting out pretty high in the Static area.

I test drove the car and then talked to the salesman. He worked out the total cost, including the trade-in value from my current car. He asked me if I had looked up the value of the car. I told him Kelly Blue Book had the value at $2700 for fair condition. He put that number into the price he was quoting (without even looking at the car).

He then offered an extra $500 on the trade-in value to bring it to $3200 (still without looking at the car) to buy it that day. I didn’t intend to buy that day as I was just starting to look, but it was tempting.  He said the current promotions were good through Monday, so I left with the numbers he wrote down.

I went through the numbers at home and the price was pretty good. So I called back with, admittedly, an aggressive counter offer. I wasn’t surprised when he said that it was too low. But, he said he might be able to work a little more on the trade-in value, so I told him I’d come back on Monday so they could examine my car.

At this point, my pulse point had gone up in the Ecstatic area. The visit was short and easy, and I had hard numbers to work with. I was ready to buy and had every intention of doing so come that Monday. I should have known better.

The Downturn

On Monday, after looking at my car, he said he could only give me $1000 for the trade-in…maybe $1500. I was not expecting that. He said that I had told him the car was in good condition and it’s wasn’t. Not only was he undercutting the offer he already made by $2200, but he also blamed it on to me as if I had lied to him.  My pulse point plummeted to the Vulnerable area as I left without buying the car.

Don’t get me wrong. His explanation of the value of my car was valid. If he had looked at my car before offering the Kelly Blue Book value (and then an extra $500), I would have understood. Now, this felt like a standard rope-in tactic to get you to spend more. Even friends said it sounded like a bait-and-switch.


I hated the idea of starting the whole process over. So, I decided to Tweet the experience to see if I got any response (Social media is a great place to get some help). Here was my Tweet:

My Tweet to Toyota

To their credit, Metro Toyota’s sales manager, Rich, called me about an hour after the Tweet. They also replied to my Tweet shortly after that apologizing for my experience. They even named the salesman which showed me they looked up my information. That moved my pulse point back up…a little. Reaching out was positive, but I didn’t know what they would offer me.

Long story short, when I called Rich, he apologized. Although he couldn’t give me the original quote for my trade-in, he was able to make a good offer. We agreed on a deal that I was comfortable with and I ended up buying the car…happily.

I also need to give a shout out to Tony who took care of me when I went back to complete everything. He was actually the one that replied to my Tweet. He was very friendly and treated me like a person, not a disgruntled customer.

My pulse point is now back up to Ecstatic. I would recommend Metro Toyota (with the caveat of having them look at your trade-in car before believing any offer they make). They were able to save my business by paying attention to social media, reaching out and regaining my trust.

My New Toyota


One last note. At the time of my Tweet, I would have listened to any of their competitors, but no one else responded to my Tweet. I had visited a Nissan dealership after my initial visit with Metro Toyota. But, I couldn’t get them to talk about the price. All I got was a vague “we’ll work with you” and I felt like I was wasting their time. If I had felt comfortable with them, they would have been the first place I went after Metro Toyota fell through. Instead, they weren’t even a consideration.

The Pulse concept from Unselling is a great way for brands to understand their customers’ experiences. Extend that to knowing how it affects their loyalty and buying behavior. Do you have an example of how Unselling concepts might apply to one of your buying experiences? Or, if you work for a brand, how you can work the Unselling concepts into your marketing strategy? Thanks for reading and please share this with your friends.

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